Wednesday, November 19, 2025

You Just Don't Understand

This was an awesome book when it was first published so it's cool to see it get attention still.



One of the most interesting things i’ve learned from this book so far is the topic of mansplaining, and how what women perceive as misogyny is actually the man being an egalitarian. I’ll try to summarize. From a high level: the feminine trusts the experts, while the masculine verifies them. This means that among women when it comes to who gets to make the decision or pontificate on the topic, they try to figure out who knows the most about it and then they quietly listen and follow her advice. While among men, when someone asserts themselves as an expert, the other men see this as a bid for power, and so they challenge them to make sure that they are genuinely an expert and deserving of their subordination to him on this topic. So what happens is that women expect other people to not challenge them on the things they perceive themselves as the expert on. Say, if she is the project manager, everyone who is not the project manager should defer to her judgement. But what happens when dealing with a man is that he challenges her, and the more she tries to say “erm sweety i’m the expert” the more he feels the need to challenge her. What he wants and expects is that if she truly is the expert, she can show him how he is wrong and his idea is stupid and prove that she deserves the title of SME on this so that he can respect and trust her judgement. However to her this offensive and rude. And furthermore, she doesn’t see him do this to the men so he must be questioning her or pontificating despite not knowing as much because she is a woman. But what’s actually the case is that he did do that to the men too, they just proved to him that they deserved the title and so he stopped. There is this introductory period of s**t testing that the others passed. But because no one has ever challenged her before, all the girlies just say “oh you’re so smart ms expert” she’s not experienced at fighting back. And so even when she does genuinely know more, she fumbles the s**t test and loses his respect, making him more likely to challenge her in the future. The most ironic bit here is that what she perceives of as misogyny is actually him being a radical egalitarian. Most men are brought up to treat a woman with kid gloves and not do this type of s**t testing as hard as they do with men. But as we’ve dissolved these practices, more and more men are not seeing gender and do treat women like men and they get decried as sexist.


Thursday, November 13, 2025

TDS in reality

https://www.wsj.com/opinion/is-trump-derangement-syndrome-real-a603e4a1?mod=trending_now_opn_4

Is ‘Trump Derangement Syndrome’ Real?

No therapist would render such a derogatory and partisan diagnosis, but I’ve seen it in my practice.

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Is “Trump derangement syndrome” real? No serious mental-health professional would render such a partisan and derogatory diagnosis. Yet I’ve seen it in my own psychotherapy practice. Patients across the political spectrum have brought Donald Trump into therapy not to discuss policy but to process obsession, rage and dread. Their distress is symptomatic, not ideological.

Clinically, the presentation aligns with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorders: persistent intrusive thoughts, emotional dysregulation and impaired functioning. Patients describe sleepless nights, compulsive news checking and physical agitation. Many confess they can’t stop thinking about Donald Trump even when they try. They interpret his every move as a threat to democracy and to their own safety and control.

Call it “obsessive political preoccupation”—an obsessive-compulsive spectrum presentation in which a political figure becomes the focal point for intrusive thoughts, heightened arousal and compulsive monitoring.

I initially viewed this as an ideological reaction, an understandable response to a polarizing figure. But over time the symptoms took on a more clinical shape. What once looked like outrage now presents as a fixation that distorts perception and consumes attention.

One patient told me she couldn’t enjoy a family vacation because “it felt wrong to relax while Trump was still out there.” Others report panic attacks or trouble sleeping after seeing him in the news. Their anxiety has outgrown politics and become a way of being.

At the group level, the pattern functions like a culture-bound syndrome, a condition shaped by shared social triggers within a specific context. From a diagnostic standpoint, it overlaps with obsessive-compulsive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder and trauma-related syndromes. While not a formal diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, it reflects the same symptom patterns and behavioral mechanisms used to define emerging conditions. By that measure, this presentation merits serious consideration.

The clinical importance of distinguishing this pattern lies in treatment. When it is coded simply as generalized anxiety or OCD, patients often receive reassurance or validation that briefly soothes them but ultimately reinforces the fixation. In this presentation, anxiety has fused with identity. The therapeutic work is to help patients regain psychological distance so they can separate internal fears from the political figure onto whom they have projected them. That requires limiting compulsive information seeking and disrupting the social feedback loops that sustain the preoccupation, rather than merely reducing anxiety. We make similar distinctions in conditions like body dysmorphic disorder and hoarding disorder: The meaning of the preoccupation determines how we treat it. The same principle applies here.

What makes obsessive political preoccupation distinct is its collective reinforcement: Social media, partisan news outlets and aspects of modern therapy have turned emotional validation into moral virtue. Each act of outrage delivers short-term relief that reinforces the cycle, maintaining the compulsion rather than resolving it. At its core, it isn’t much different from other OCD-like presentations I see in my practice.

The term “Trump derangement syndrome” emerged as a tongue-in-cheek partisan label. The joke obscured the psychological reality in which a political figure becomes a symbolic stand-in for threat and loss of control.

Mr. Trump himself isn’t the pathology; he is the trigger. For many, he functions as a psychological screen onto which unresolved fears and insecurities are projected. Political disagreement turns into perceived personal threat. A smaller group of Trump supporters have similar responses of opposite valence: They experience anger and feelings of persecution whenever Mr. Trump is criticized, as if an attack on him were an attack on them. In both cases, emotion replaces reason, and psychological distance collapses.

Therapy, once a space for cognitive restructuring, has in some quarters become an echo chamber for emotion. Rather than challenging distorted thoughts, many therapists affirm them, mistaking empathy for effectiveness. The language of trauma and safety has migrated into everyday discourse, pathologizing discomfort and politicizing distress. Political anxiety serves as moral performance instead of a cue for regulation.

For many Americans, what began as a stress response has become a chronic state of hyperarousal and vigilance. In 2016 the reaction was acute: disbelief, anger, panic. By 2020 it had hardened into identity. Now it has become a way of life. During the 2024 campaign and into 2025, many patients have spoken with fatalistic dread about Mr. Trump’s continuing presence at the center of national life. Even hearing his name can trigger a physiological response. They aren’t reacting to Mr. Trump the man but to Trump the symbol—the embodiment of chaos, threat and loss of control.

The clinical challenge is to engage without reinforcing the obsession. Helping patients limit information intake, identify cognitive distortions and tolerate uncertainty restores psychological flexibility, the capacity that obsession erodes. As with other anxiety disorders, exposure and cognitive reappraisal are more effective than reassurance. The goal is perspective, not persuasion.

Psychologically, the treatment is differentiation. Patients must learn to separate internal anxiety from external reality and to see Mr. Trump not as an emotional projection but as an external figure whose significance can be managed rather than magnified.

For therapists, the task is to resist moral contagion, restore perspective and help patients regain cognitive distance. The goal isn’t to feel safe from Mr. Trump but to feel stable despite him. We can’t have a healthy democracy if half the country experiences the other half as a trauma trigger. The challenge, clinical and cultural, is to rebuild psychological distance—to see the difference between what we feel and what truly is. Only then can people engage politically without losing their mental balance.

Mr. Alpert is a psychotherapist practicing in New York and Washington and author of “Therapy Nation,” forthcoming in 2026.


Sunday, November 2, 2025

loss of short-term memory

 

Millions of years ago our antecedents had a massive sacrifice of their left hemisphere. We lost a lot of short term memory and replaced it with Broca’s, Wernicke & the phonological loop. But why? So we can—talk. Thus chimpanzees can do this—we can’t:


https://x.com/BrianRoemmele/status/1984836325032542342




“Is your brain necessary?” In 1980 Science magazine published this after researchers found people with almost no brain material—living a normal life [1]. This man lost half his brain and he lives a normal life. The video is shocking. HE LOST NO MEMORIES. We are yet to even understand in a minimal way human memory and intelligence really operate, where it truly comes from and even where it is stored. In the 1921 Dr. Wilder Penfield presented convincing evidence that memories were stored in specific locations in the brain or engrams. Penfield performed surgery on epileptic patients and found that when he stimulated the temporal lobes, the patients relived experiences from the past. He found that whenever he stimulated a specific region of the brain, it evoked the same memory. This set the explanation that is still taught today and is likely what you learned even if you are a neurosurgeon. In an effort to verify Dr. Penfield’s experiments, biologist Dr. Karl Lashley in 1950 began searching for the elusive engrams. He had trained rats in maze-running abilities and then attempted to surgically remove the portion of the rat’s brains (sorry, this is what he did) that contained the maze-running knowledge. Dr. Lashley found that no matter what portion of the brain he removed, the rats retained their maze-running knowledge. Even when massive portions of the brain were removed, the rats were still able to navigate through the maze. Dr. Penfield was intrigued but horrified and delayed publishing his work because he knew it was heretical and he would be deem a Charlatan. He published his work and he was, of course, called a Charlatan. Dr. Karl Pribram in 1969, a student of Dr. Penfield, was astonished by Dr. Lashley’s research. Dr. Pribram was successful in duplicating Lashley’s work and noticed that when brain-injured patients had large sections of their brain removed, they did not suffer a loss of any specific memories. Instead, the patient’s memory became increasingly hazy as greater portions of the brain were removed. Further research of Dr. Penfield’s experiments could be only duplicated on epileptic patients because of ethical reasons. He was only performing tests as he helped epileptic patients with live brain surgery to help with their brain issues, along the way he was able to see some memories fade slightly. Dr. Pribram knew that certain parts of the brain performed specific functions, yet the actual processing of the information seemed to be carried out by something that was not particular to any group of cells. Dr. Pribram observed memories were not localized at specific brain sites but distributed throughout the brain as a whole. By 1977 Dr. Pribram came to the same conclusion as Lashley, that memories are not localized in any specific brain cells, but rather, memory seemed to be distribution throughout the whole brain. The problem was that there was simply no known mechanism that would explain how this was possible. Dr. Pribram remained puzzled until he saw an old mid 1960’s article in Scientific American describing the construction of laser hologram. He immediately synthesized the information and hypothesized that the mind itself was operating in a holographic manner. We don’t understand the brain to any real degree. We don’t understand where intelligence comes from. Where it is held. Where it goes when you pass. Yet today there are folks that demand that you accept they know what Artificial General Intelligence (AGI) is and that it is “dangerous”. Start with defining human intelligence first.


Subjective reality

  Vijay Upadhyaya @VijayUpadhyaya · 13h @ScottAdamsSays now science says what you have been telling us all along. There is filter through ...