What makes kids successful

 

https://x.com/mindsetmachine/status/2021699126577037523?s=20

Here's the transcript from the video in the X post:

"Do you know what the strongest predictor that a child will succeed as an adult is?

A 75-year Harvard study that tracked people from childhood into their 80s found one specific thing predicted a successful life that holds together when the road gets rough.

What they found wasn't on anyone's parenting checklist, it wasn't grades, it wasn't IQ or talent and it wasn't activities. Most parents are doing the exact opposite. We pile on activities sign them up for tutoring and then we lie awake wondering we're not doing enough.

The study found that kids doing chores by preschool were 12 times more likely to be financially stable by their mid-20s.

Chores build executive function, the brain's ability to plan start and finish even when motivation is gone.

Here's why that matters. Achievement teaches kids perform while someone else evaluates them. Contribution teaches them to function when no one is watching. What happened because of them, capability lived in their body not just heads. It builds someone who fixes problems when they see it. Someone can handle hard. Builds agency.

You want kids to see the overflowing trash and take out without being asked.

Create a culture where contribution is norm.

Signal that trash is full or groceries are in the car. State problem but don't assign task and let connect problem with action.

Small acts of ownership practiced daily compound into a lifetime of taking initiative.

And that's the difference between someone who waits to be managed and someone who takes ownership of the world."